5 Mistakes to Avoid in a Thiyya Wedding

The Hindu culture is made up of a large number of communities that varies from one another as per the traditions. You will also find many modifications in the wedding rituals and customs based on the region. Though the core concept remains the same, the rituals are conducted as per the region you are in. One of the largest and fastest-growing Hindu communities in Kerala is Thiyya.

Unlike 2-3 days or week-long wedding celebrations, Thiyya marriages are usually short. Among all the Hindu weddings in Kerala, Thiyya weddings are the shortest. It is a one-day event without noise and show-off.

Here are 5 mistakes to avoid in a Thiyya wedding.

Not conducting Nishchayam

As part of the initial rituals and ceremonies which take place in Thiyya weddings, Nischayam is vital as it is engagement between couples to mark the beginning of the wedding. Moreover, the elders in the family must buy gifts for the other family and exchange it. It is this ritual which is called the engagement ceremony.

Not respecting relatives

Thiyya weddings are a grand event with the presence of distant relatives and family members attending days or a week before the wedding. The bride and the groom’s family must pay close attention to keep the family members comfortable and should cater to all their needs.

Some mistake this for an age-old tradition and ignore. However, the blessings of the elders and respect for the family is considered one of the important procedures to a happy, blissful wedding.

Not performing Pooja before the wedding

Thiyya community has immense belief in God and hence conducting a pooja before the Thiyya wedding is absolutely mandatory. The ceremony involves offering fresh flowers to Lord Ganesha and seek blessings to remove any obstacles on the wedding day and to have a happy, prosperous married life. As the wedding preparations begin, it is difficult to remember all the details or miss attendance. This should be avoided and both the bride and the groom must follow all the rituals.

Not giving gifts to the bride and groom

Thiyya marriages involve exchanging gifts from the groom’s and the bride’s side. Pay attention while buying gifts and make sure this ceremony is conducted in presence of a priest. Thiyya community believes in completing the rituals on time. This is to avoid any last-minute complications or rush. Though it sounds like a simple task, make sure to pay attention to the kind of gifts bought and exchanged.

Not conducting Kashi Yatra

Kashi Yatra is a popular ritual of Thiyya weddings which is conducted for fun and must not be taken seriously by the couples or anyone in the family. The bride and groom seek the blessings of the elders before and after the wedding nuptials as respect towards tradition.

Though it may sound like a lot of formalities, remember it is done for the positive future of the bride and groom. The Thiyya community sticks to the tradition to preserve their culture and pass it on to future generations.